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You are here: Home / Sermons / How do we cope when Jesus does not stand up for us the way we had hoped?

How do we cope when Jesus does not stand up for us the way we had hoped?

August 20, 2017 by 2

Christians need to show determination in adversity and in the face of rejection. The Canaanite woman’s encounter with Jesus in Matthew’s Gospel is difficult for us because Jesus’ behaviour towards her, on the face of it, is rude to the point of being outrageous. Nevertheless, through her determination, in the face of Jesus’ initial rejection of her pleas, her wish is granted by him. Rev. Geoff McKee (in his sermon for 20 August 2017) discusses the lessons we can draw from her persistence, for our own lives.

If you would like to download a PDF version of the sermon – which follows below – please click here.

Matthew 15:10-28 (New International Version)

10 Jesus called the crowd to him and said, “Listen and understand. 11 What goes into someone’s mouth does not defile them, but what comes out of their mouth, that is what defiles them.”

12 Then the disciples came to him and asked, “Do you know that the Pharisees were offended when they heard this?”

13 He replied, “Every plant that my heavenly Father has not planted will be pulled up by the roots. 14 Leave them; they are blind guides. If the blind lead the blind, both will fall into a pit.”

15 Peter said, “Explain the parable to us.”

16 “Are you still so dull?” Jesus asked them. 17 “Don’t you see that whatever enters the mouth goes into the stomach and then out of the body? 18 But the things that come out of a person’s mouth come from the heart, and these defile them. 19 For out of the heart come evil thoughts—murder, adultery, sexual immorality, theft, false testimony, slander. 20 These are what defile a person; but eating with unwashed hands does not defile them.”

The Faith of a Canaanite Woman
21 Leaving that place, Jesus withdrew to the region of Tyre and Sidon. 22 A Canaanite woman from that vicinity came to him, crying out, “Lord, Son of David, have mercy on me! My daughter is demon-possessed and suffering terribly.”

23 Jesus did not answer a word. So his disciples came to him and urged him, “Send her away, for she keeps crying out after us.”

24 He answered, “I was sent only to the lost sheep of Israel.”

25 The woman came and knelt before him. “Lord, help me!” she said.

26 He replied, “It is not right to take the children’s bread and toss it to the dogs.”

27 “Yes it is, Lord,” she said. “Even the dogs eat the crumbs that fall from their master’s table.”

28 Then Jesus said to her, “Woman, you have great faith! Your request is granted.” And her daughter was healed at that moment.

At 25 years, Poon Lim was appointed second steward on a British Merchant Ship.

There were a crew of 55 when the ship left Cape Town on 23rd November 1942. A few days later, a Nazi U-boat torpedoed them.

The ship was sinking and on seeing this, Poon jumped overboard. The ship sank into the ocean and Poon tried to gasp for air in between the waves. He found a raft after two hours of struggle, swam to it and hauled himself on board.

Poon found some tinned biscuits, a metal water jug, a small supply of fresh water, some flares and an electric torch. He rationed himself and only ate two biscuits per day and drank a few sips of the water.

With the supplies he had, he calculated that he would survive a month but Poon knew he had to find land when no one rescued him after a month.

He used the wire from the electric torch and a biscuit as bait to catch fish. After catching the first fish, it became easier, since he could use pieces of it as bait for his next catch. He also caught sharks and seagulls and drank their blood. He used notches that he made in the wood to track the days he spent at sea. He also exercised by swimming twice a day. On his 131st day at sea, he saw the colour of water change and saw more kelp and birds.

On the 133rd day, a small boat rescued him. He had crossed the Atlantic and was just at the mouth of the Amazon River. Poon had lost 10 kg but still managed to stay strong. He could walk unaided even after the whole ordeal.

He holds the record for the longest survival on a life raft.

Against all odds, he came through: what determination and resolve to fight for life like that.

The Canaanite woman, in our reading from Matthew’s Gospel today, showed determination in the face of rejection.

Against all odds she got what she desired; healing for her daughter.

This passage raises disturbing questions for the reader.

Jesus attitude and behaviour towards the woman was outrageous. If we read this and don’t have any questions then we probably haven’t taken in what happened.

The woman shouted at Jesus. He could hear her clearly and yet he ignored her. He walked away.

Furthermore, when the woman continued to pursue him and asked him again for help, he demeaned her by referring to her as a dog. We have a similar way of speaking today but most of us would not use such language – but Jesus did!

I have commented before that the ‘gentle Jesus, meek and mild’ image just doesn’t fit with the Gospel stories.

Here is another case in point.

He was rude and abusive and, as his followers, we are left to try and make sense of this.

Some commentators have tried to side-step the issue by suggesting that Jesus didn’t mean it. He was only toying with the woman, to make a point, before he delivered the healing.

That doesn’t do it for me because that kind of behaviour is no better than the outright abusive kind.

Before we try and find a way forward that doesn’t soft peddle the text – because that would be no use – let’s pause and ask the question:

“How do we cope when Jesus does not stand up for us the way we had hoped?”

Both the hummingbird and the vulture fly over deserts.

All vultures see is rotting meat, because that is what they look for. They thrive on that diet.

But hummingbirds ignore the smelly flesh of dead animals. Instead, they look for the colourful blossoms of desert plants.

The vultures live on what was. They live on the past. They fill themselves with what is dead and gone.

But hummingbirds live on what is. They seek new life. They fill themselves with freshness and life.

Each bird finds what it is looking for.

We all do too.

Throughout my ministry – over twenty years and across numerous churches and locations – I have been aware of a significant group of people who profess a Christian faith but do not attend church.

For many of these people, something has happened in the past that is so big for them that they just can’t get over it.

Someone in the church may have been harsh to them. Some people in the church may have snubbed them.

But, often, after spending a bit of time with these people, something will emerge in conversation that has brought an end to their fellowship with others.

I always sympathise, because it is never pleasant to feel that you have been hard done by and that you have lost something because of someone else’s harshness.

However, it is also true that we all need to grow up.

Part of growing up is being able to take a blow, whatever it may be, and to get on from it.

How must the Canaanite woman have felt when Jesus abused her? It must have been terrible.

Strictly speaking, Jesus didn’t do anything wrong:

  • First of all, a woman approached him in public. That was not appropriate within the cultural restrictions of the age.
  • Second, she shouted at him. We too would be inclined to walk away if an unknown person approached us and started shouting.
  • Third, she was unclean because she was a Canaanite and because her family was affected by the activity of an evil spirit. Keep walking Jesus, this has nothing to do with you.

Most people would have given up.

Most people would have been despondent at Jesus’ reaction. Most people would have become disillusioned with a teacher whose actions didn’t match his words. She didn’t; she kept coming.

I don’t think we can ever fully understand Jesus’ reaction to the woman and his actions in this passage. We can come up with reasons but, if those reasons try to soften the impact of the text, they are no good.

This story is meant to hit us in the guts.

We are meant to sit up and take note of it and when we do that, we hear the words ‘Kyrie, eleison’, ‘Lord have mercy’. That’s what makes the difference.

The woman was not prepared to accept that the good news of Jesus Christ was limited to one ethnic group, despite the resistance of Jesus Christ, and so she received mercy and all of us here are indebted to her persistence, for Matthew’s Gospel ends with Jesus’ words: “Go therefore and make disciples of all nations”.

A mother once approached Napoleon seeking a pardon for her son.

The emperor replied that the young man had committed a certain offence twice and justice demanded death.

“But I don’t ask for justice,” the mother explained. “I plead for mercy.”

“But your son does not deserve mercy,” Napoleon replied.

“Sir,” the woman cried, “it would not be mercy if he deserved it, and mercy is all I ask for.”

“Well, then,” the emperor said, “I will have mercy.” And he spared the woman’s son.

That’s all the Canaanite woman asked for too. It’s all that we ask for as well but, of course, it is everything in this world and it is given only by God.

We can only end with Jesus’ words: “‘Woman, great is your faith! Let it be done for you as you wish.’ And her daughter was healed instantly.”

Amen.

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